What happens if you are not confirmed

First of all. But it deserves an adequate explanation, see the following I wrote for Louis…. I am a baptized Catholic, but have never been Confirmed. I offer this explanation which is taken from the Code of Canon Law the official law of the Catholic Church …… note that I have highlighted some parts in red. Canon — 1. If they can do so without serious inconvenience, Catholics who have not yet received the sacrament of confirmation are to receive it before being admitted to marriage.

It is strongly recommended that those to be married approach the sacraments of penance and the Most Holy Eucharist so that they may fruitfully receive the sacrament of marriage. The reception of baptism is necessary for the valid reception of the sacrament of matrimony. The reception of the sacraments of confirmation, penance, and Eucharist is strongly recommended for Catholics who enter a sacramental marriage including a mixed marriage as well as those who enter a disparity of cult marriage.

Although following this recommendation is not necessary for the validity of the marriage, it is urged in virtue of the faith dimension of marriage as well as the ecclesial obligations. The present Code repeats the legislation of the Code CIC , 2 which urged the reception of confirmation before marriage.

Commentaries on the Code and the marriage law committee which helped to formulate the present Code say little about canon Mention is limited to concern for the nature of the obligation and reasons for allowing non-confirmed persons to marry. In any event a willingness to be confirmed is presumed. Each church has a different policy. Some will allow non- members to get married , but will usually charge a higher fee than their members. Some churches won't allow non- members to use their sanctuary though.

Also, some churches require you to go through premarital counseling or classes. You can have a wedding in a church on Sunday , but you can 't close the place down and just invite people you want. But, technically, the priest could marry you in the middle of the regular Sunday mass. Yes, blood relatives and members of family can be chosen as your child's Godparents too.

You can also be your own child's Godparents in the Christian faith. Girls usually have two godmothers and one godfather while boys have two godfathers and one godmother but there is no hard and fast rules nowadays.

Non-practising Christians can have as many or as few as they like, though it is customary to have at least one godfather and one godmother. What happens if you don't get confirmed in the Catholic Church? Category: religion and spirituality christianity. In short, one who has been Baptized but not Confirmed is a Christian, but not a fully-initiated Christian.

Why does the bishop slap your face when confirmed? Can I take communion if I haven't been confirmed? Do you have to be confirmed to marry in a Catholic church?

Are you still Catholic if you don't get confirmed? Do you need all your sacraments to get married in a Catholic church? What are the 7 steps of confirmation? Why do I want to be confirmed in the Catholic Church? Can a Catholic marry a non Catholic? Do you have to pay to get married in a Catholic church?

Can a Catholic get married during Lent? What documents does the Catholic Church need from the couple? What is a non sacramental marriage? Can you get married in a church without being a member? Does this mean I am not confirmed? If I am not confirmed what do I do to correct the situation? Do I need to be confirmed over again? Or do I need to get a blessed somehow?

I was confirmed about 45 years ago. Not all Christian churches believe that the host is the actual body of Christ, nor the wine consecrated is His blood. Not sure if anyone will respond, providing the dates of posting and replies. This year both my son and daughter will be getting sacraments. My son, holy communion. My daughter, confirmation. Also not respecting parental schedules in terms of work!

Catechism classes one day and time. Then having to attend mass another time or day! This to me seems disorganized. What happened to the acceptance of anyone with the faith? Since when do all these rules provide us with a sense of belonging, or faith or even a desire to stay in religion?! In my time the catholic schools would help in preparation for these sacraments.

Where is this being applied, with over 20 catechism classes. Masses, retreats, volunteer services. Where is the church trying to work with the parents. Life is so much more hectic than 30 plus years ago! We are offering ourselves o be part of the church and it seems that once we are in, we are feared to not leave. Feared to partake or else. And then contribute financially! Frankly, I have become turned off by the church.

I was excited to partake and continue but after this week and dealing with the initial meeting with the church, I have having serious second thoughts about allowing my kids to partake and even contemplating in staying with the church! Why have my kids attend a Catholic school if the church does not wish to collaborate?

Why do my kids have to be forced twice to learn about the Catholic Church? You cannot obligate anyone or threaten them! To build trust, to build a faith. That seems quite cultic to me. Are we not suppose to open our hearts and arms to everyone? Are we not suppose to express the freedom of expression even within the church? I know for a fact that these practices are not the same with every church and that these obligations are not practiced or encouraged with other parishes.

Is this right? Can each individual parish do as they want? Is this a power struggle? A means to get more money? Politics within the parishes and catchment areas? I am not looking to be bashed here and I feel I have a right to my opinion and questions. I also apologize for any grammatical or spelling errors as when you are typing with passion little typo errors seem insignificant. Thank you! I also forgot to add the actual signed contracts that both my 7 yr old and 13 yr old had to sign, read aloud and vow to partake!

And that this is first time my son is really becoming involved with the church and he walked out crying because father made him read and promise and he was scared! Is this what it means to be in the faith? Completely torn, feeling betrayed! Follow your gut! All they want is control of your entire family, mind, body, and soul, and they will do anything to get it so a percentage of your income stays within their control.

What does that sound like to you? A cult? You need to tread lightly for the sake of your children. I believe deep within your heart you know I am stating the truth, but outside community pressure is propably weighing on you. I am not one of those people. Blessings Nancy.

We are pulled in a lot of different directions by many different time priorities. As Catholics, living for and with God is our first priority and everything else is second. Each day since baptisms is a day lived in thanksgiving for the redeming love and mercy of Jesus. It is our destiny as Catholics. When the year comes that we actually receive the sacraments, Jesus and His disciples are called to bring our sons and daughters into a deep spiritual journey. In other words, each day is focused on being in communion with the church, through the parish you worship with.

Prayer, scripture, and service in the parish is seen as the sacred commitment each Catholic gives to live His will, not ours. Confirmation celebrates the fullness of the Holy Spirit in the Church. The Spirit of Jesus, the same Spirit that transformed the apostles, comes upon the members of the Church. Yes, life is more hectic for most families than it was 30 years ago.

Now might be a good time to set some priorities for you and your family. In my town, Faith Formation classes are held at one set time a week for grades , and we have a choice of one of two days for grades These classes are taught by volunteers who give up not just class time, but many hours of preparation for class as well. I consider it a privilege to have other adults helping me teach the Catholic faith to my children. These classes take priority over sports, parties, etc.

In my home, it is clear that Church comes first. It might not always be the popular choice, considering my husband does not share my faith and would rather the kids not miss a game, but I need to send a clear message to my children. We have three Masses at our church to choose from.

Mass is also a priority as we are called to come together and worship. I think your church might have been pushed to the place they are at with signing contracts because some parents just think their kids should receive the sacraments without actually preparing for them adequately.

You are mistaken the catholic church is radical It is without doubt the most politicaly motivated, financialy corrupt, morally bankrupt institution on earth, filled with perverse cover ups starting with that antichrist you call the pope. And remember you are NOT the established church in this country and could be closed down at any given time. The focus is God and nothing else. There is no church where you will feel the presence of Jesus, when you walk in the door like you do in the Catholic Church.

If your focus is hate and evil, then you will see hate and evil. I just think that it is another ritual to enable faith to grow but maybe I am wrong. I myself would want to understand the meaning of it, but more than often it seems things become clearer with time.

The hussle and bussle of dealing with people, appointments keeping is a all different kettle of fish… Apooologies for misspelt wordsss. No such thing as eucharist. Not even in the bibke. No such word you will ever fjnd, All made up by a man.. And Mary made no sufficient sacrufuce. She was just chosen by God to have achild. But she was blessed. Just blessed. She made no sacrifice.. Okay J, you need to go back to school.. Not to mention the huge percentage of paedophile priests who abuse children- all covered up by the Vatican.

Grow up! Read and learn instead of spewing what some anti everything taught you. Read and learn. What a baby Anna be Christian. They are all described in the collection of books now known as the Holy Bible but some are obscured by the description. Also, in a time where having a child out of wedlock was a bad thing, she may have been abused by her neighbours and family. Also, because you may have had a good education, does not mean that the others on websites have.

You have no right being on this page if you just want to talk through your trashy mouth. Keep your thoughts to yourself. Shame on them…. Even the priest is just a mere ma. He has two choices to go tom heaven or HELL. First of all, you have to be properly baptized. Read the KJ version. In Mark Jesus plainly states Mark And straightway coming up out of the water, he saw the heavens opened, and the Spirit like a dove descending upon him. First be properly baptized as Jesus was by submerging.

Sprinkling is not a way of baptism. Ahh, the sweet ignorance of a little knowledge! J Byrd, if you study the history of the Roman Catholic Church then you will come across a document known as the Didache the Teaching. This was written some time between the crucifixion and AD. You have to remember that several documents, epistles and Gospels alike did not make it past Hippo into what we call the New Testament. My daughter is set in St. Albert the great for her confirmation name and feels very strongly about it.

She also wants to keep his name as is and not take it in a female form. I understand some nuns have taken male saints as well but my daughter was told it has to be a female saint for her confirmation. Can you please help. This is the difficulty sometimes that we think that the people attending church should almost be perfect but actually quite often this is not the case and maybe some actually struggle more.

I am going to say a prayer for you that you make the right decision for you. My daughter is also going through confirmation at the moment and she too has challenged and been unsure if she wants to do it.

I said to her to put it in the hands of god and pray, he will never leave you unaided. Since saying that she has seemed much happier. God Bless.