Why dont people like me

Craving external validation because you lack inner self-worth hits the nail on the head for me but I find it embarrassing to admit how desperately uncool I am in my desire to be liked. Skip navigation! Story from Living. Marianne Eloise. Earlier this year, I ran into an old colleague. Of course, I did what any normal, healthy millennial would do: I obsessed over it.

I ran every weird thing I might have said through my head but, ultimately, came up short. And honestly, that was harder to stomach. Like most people, especially women , I worry about whether or not people like me. I know people are diverse and personalities clash but I still long to find a way to care less what people think of me while remaining open and loving.

Yeah, you've been around more blocks and climbed more mountains and slayed more dragons. That just makes you you : unique, matchless, one of a kind--but in the end, just you. Everyone is different: not better, not worse, just different. Appreciate the differences instead of the shortcomings and you'll see people--and yourself--in a better light.

Criticizing has a brother. His name is Preaching. They share the same father: Judging. The higher you rise and the more you accomplish, the more likely you are to think you know everything and to tell people everything you think you know.

When you speak with more finality than foundation, people may hear you but they don't listen. Few things are sadder and leave you feeling less happy. The past is valuable. Learn from your mistakes. Learn from the mistakes of others. Easier said than done? Even Troy Aikman struggles with this, but in a really good way. It depends on your focus.

When something bad happens to you, see that as a chance to learn something you didn't know. When another person makes a mistake, see that as an opportunity to be kind, forgiving, and understanding. The past is just training; it doesn't define you. Think about what went wrong, but only in terms of how you will make sure that, next time, you and the people around you will know how to make sure it goes right. We're all afraid, of what might or might not happen, of what we can't change, or what we won't be able to do, or how other people might perceive us.

So it's easier to hesitate, to wait for the right moment, to decide we need to think a little longer or do some more research or explore a few more alternatives. Don't let your fears hold you back. I did. I struggled with this a lot. I could not care less to be honest. When you keep in mind that them not liking you has nothing to do with you it really makes it that much easier to deal with. When you care how people feel about you, you are giving them your power.

This is your life. Take back your power and stop caring what people think of you or if they like you or not.

It took me a long time to realize this. I was one of those people who would bend over backwards to get someone to like me, be my friend, give me attention, accept and appreciate me.

We are threatening to people who want to stay weak and in their shell. You keep being you. Change because you know you need to.

So you can be happy. Not for any other reason, ever. And then when you are finally happy and at peace with your life, the right people will gravitate towards you. Did you love this post? Does what I share with you move you in any way shape or form? Do you love the blogs I share with you? If anything I have ever shared with you has inspired, motivated, empowered or enlightened you please consider supporting my work by buying me a coffee!!

Click the button below. Thank you love you!! Yes, these are pretty accurate peculiar reasons. What I hate the most is that someone who interrupts conversations and the one with a weird, annoying voice haha. Good post! Conversely I find that I tend to speak quickly because I myself expect not to be allowed to complete a thought and I need to get it out while I can. Weird, I know…. Most people dislike me but seeing me for the first time. They dont talk to me even if I greet them no response.

Sometimes the person talks to me today, tommorow they are moody. Why is it like that? People are pretty selfish. No one has ever invited me to so much as a conversation. She offered to fight me. I just gave up, and it spilled all over her exterior. I get called out or stared at everywhere I go. I enjoy masks, because people ignore me instead of staring. Yesterday, a woman in a wheelchair looked at me disgusted. I had forgotten my mask, and decided to quickly grab milk.

You should try to find things which interest you. I love books, and art. I wish you the best of luck. If you go out of your way for others too many times, it can be difficult for your friends or colleagues to truly respect you. Trying to please everybody is the wrong way to go about establishing healthy relationships — the sooner you realize it, the better. Neediness can exhibit itself in quite a few ways — some will try to find people they can constantly assault with their problems, questions, and dilemmas, just to make themselves feel better about their own predicament.

Others may try to look for friends everywhere, looking to please everyone else but themselves, turning into a bland pushover without any real personality whatsoever. One of the best tips we can give you if you recognize yourself as one of these two needy types is this: others are not there to please you, nor are you here to please others.

In the end, everyone is responsible for their own well-being. Humblebragging is a big thing. You just posted that photo of your brand new custom-built home.

No one cares that your new 4-karat diamond ring keeps getting stuck in your hair as you pull it into a ponytail. Next time you want to show off to your friends, do it up front, like a regular person. Most people are fighting their own battles, and some people are just living on a day-to-day basis. Social media makes it easy to post a seemingly boastful life. Your smiling children in their gorgeous clothes, your expensive dinner date, or your new car might just be sharing to you, but it is boasting to other users.

More often than not, show-offs will end up developing fake, meaningless relationships based on status or money. No one really liked them, but everyone feared them. This is why most people in the political world work so hard to be liked because popularity wins votes.

Sometimes jokes have just enough truth to them to offend others. It is not hard to be kind. When someone is too nice, they usually never take sides to please everyone. Pleasing everyone often leads to you being unhappy in the end. People start to notice you are not respecting yourself. People may also think you might be really fake instead of really nice.

Sometimes nice people are just nice. Sometimes nice people are just fake. How can others know which one you truly are? Just like in the case of needy people-pleasers, being too nice may backfire at one point in your life. Complaining is never positive. People enjoy being around positive people.

There are millions of people living through horrible things. Some choose to be positive, while other people prefer to complain about every little thing.